I’m the happy clappy kind of Christian, oh, yes. I’m the one who speaks in tongues and lays on hands. I’m audacious enough to believe God is still speaking, still moving, still alive, still loving. I’m the one you warn the others about – stay away from that kind of mystic, you say, it’s a slippery slope. I’m the crazy one who worships with her whole body in her whole life – you might find me on my knees on a cold gymnasium floor with all the other renewal-ish people around me, or you might find me in a cathedral during Eucharist with my palms quietly up on my knees, receiving, always receiving, or you might find me in a field ringed with pine trees while I pray and pray and pray. I’m the dreamer of dreams, the speaker of visions, the heart-beating-faster with words of knowledge and unafraid to speak. Sarah Bessey
In the beginning, before we know better, maybe the voice of God sounds like the voices of our parents. It would be nice if that’s a wide path to follow straight to the truth of Love, instead of a prison to unlock or a fetter to untangle or a dark wood to wander until we find the light. In the beginning, until they know better, I hope the voice of God breathes in my words to them: loved loved loved loved lovedlovedlovedloved thumping out a rhythm of belonging right into the ventricles of the breath.
“The world of social science has adopted a position that, as clinicians, only scientific research evidence is worthy of our attention. Providing services using any other methods for which “scientific evidence” is not yet available is considered unwise, uninformed, no better than guesswork, or worse, unethical.
So the bad news here is that virtually none of the therapies, healing traditions or ceremonies offered in the history of humankind come with scientific data and evidence attached….from the perspective of social science, your direct experience, your intuitions, your observations, what your clients tell you, all effectively have little or no value. Interesting, maybe. But self-report, anecdotal evidence, are not admissible in that world. Oh, they can be used to shape or inform research studies, but not practice. So unless you have evidence for visions quests, energy work, prayer, sending positive thoughts, Jungian dreamwork, ceremony, smudging, shamanic practices, and so on, you better not use them in sessions. You might get sued. Insurance companies won’t pay. You could damage the client….” President Jim Nolan, Southwestern College
This quote struck me as particularly apt this morning, what with all the theraputic textbook reading I’ve been doing lately, and the many strong female voices that support and surround me (hint: see my link list for a few of them!) which stress and restate the intuitive and heart-centred strengths one can draw upon to heal not only oneself but others.
The power of intuition has to be defended and reclaimed from its current dismissed status (because there was once a time when that ability was valued, respected, and validated in healers and caretakers) in order for theraputic care to ‘prove’ its worth. It’s one reason I’m drawn to a multimodal approach and philosophy…its pragmatic and encompassing stance that ‘what works for the client, works’, holds at once both common-sense detail and intuitively holistic summation. If your end goal is truly as simple and complex as to ‘feel better’, then anything from prayer to placebos, desensitization to dream analysis, sandtray to solutions-focused, love to listening, can be a) appropriate and b) effective. By definition.
The difficulty is that in a post-enlightenment world which wishes to contrast ‘faith’ and ‘science’, or ‘feeling’ and ‘reason’, rather than conflate them and enjoy the resultant synergy, we find few ways to measure, analyze, and structure the complex interplay of client/therapist relationship which results in psychological/spiritual/inner healing. And when something cannot be quantified, it cannot be controlled. Hence the fear, and the rule-wrangling which results…
A few questions for myself, and for you, this morning:
What messages inside your head and heart do you listen to, or ignore? What skeptic thoughts make you dismiss your intuitive feelings? Have you ever been sorry you didn’t ‘listen to your gut’? What fears are voiced that make you wind up setting aside your unvoiced desires?
Marianne puts it very eloquently; and it’s a resounding reminder that often women don’t feel ‘safe’ to make changes or decisions or statements because they will lose love – or even merely what looks like love. We want so much to be loved that we often compromise. Yes, love takes compromise and cooperation, but we need not compromise our very selfhood. We shouldn’t be altering our characters or suppressing our gifts out of fear.